What it Means to Stand With Ann Romney
In the last thread, my Dad posted a link to the following article: The real threat that the Ann Romneys of the world represent to the statist left. It is very good, and worth the read. He had posted the parts that he thought were the highlights, but I wanted to share with you what stood out to me, and why.
The doubling down continued when Judith Warner, who writes for TIME Magazine, agrees that Ann Romney is “out of touch” with most women. You see, Ann Romney comes from an intact family where the man is the primary breadwinner. What could be more appallingly regressive than that?
This part really got me, because it was the part I had the hardest time with when I became a SAHM. Giving up control to not only God, but also to my husband, left me feeling overwhelmingly vulnerable. All of those years where my husband could have up and left me leaving me financially unscathed were now gone. I was in a way, at his mercy- but it was God’s mercy that transcended that. How we survived those first few years I can only attribute to God. Many hours of prayer and tears. I fought that life hard. I wanted my independence.
I’m not going to tell you that I am now some kind of domestic goddess, but making a wholehearted effort to become a good wife and mother has made me into what I consider to be a good wife and mother (for *my* family). I attended a series of classes called Titus2, and learned from other women what worked and didn’t work in their home, and I also learned how to pick my battles. Somewhat nitpicky before, I became able to withstand overusing my critical tongue, eventually even without biting it. This also translated quite well into my ability to homeschool effectively.
I scare the left. I know I do. Not content to simply go about my motherly duties oblivious to what was going on in the world, I started reading the newspaper, watching the news on tv, and eventually reading blogs and starting a blog. I have a pretty decent grasp on economics, and on politics, but I can make a mean batch of carnitas (and yes, if you asked me to, I’d probably make you a sandwich).
The important part of defending Ann Romney, at least to me, is defending her right to choose the right path for her family- whatever that path may be. As mothers, we don’t need to pick apart which choice is the right one, working outside or inside the home- what we need to do is respect each other’s right to parent as we see fit. What works for her family may not work, or have worked, for yours. It seems to me, that there is jealousy at work here, at least for the most vocal of the lefty women. They are jealous of her economic status, jealous of her marital status, or that her sons turned out to be wonderful human beings. Internally, they may wish that they had been able to stay at home, or wish that their life choices had been different. They may wish that their marriage had stayed intact. I can’t say. What I can say though, is that jealousy will only lead you down a path of self destruction, because what you have will never be enough, what Ann has will always be more enticing. Allow me to say this though, what do you have if you don’t have your health? Has Ann’s money protected her from infirmity? Nope. Be grateful for what you have, and the health you enjoy. Perhaps at the point where you look to God and say “Thank you!”, you will find the peace that allows you to not care so much about the success of others, because you will truly have found success.
Standing with Ann Romney means that someday, when someone wants to pick apart your life choices, you might just have someone to stand with you. You don’t have to share the same religion, or political views, but what you should do, is respect her right to hers. Calling into question her freedom, may one day, call into question your own.